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Great Expectations

It is common to put personal expectations on others especially in our relationships with people. Oftentimes these expectations mirror our own sets of values, even our strengths and gifts, and rarely according to the same conditions available in people to whom those expectations we place. It is through these great expectations that we inevitably are bound to encounter disappointments and regrets. Even with our friends and spouses, the same outcome can be seen happening in invidual lives. Handling expectations this way seriously miss the reality of human diversity. If my values, strengths and giftedness differ even with those in my spouse or friends, how much more those people who I knew much less. People tend to place expectations on matters that, in a specific situation, they themselves can do. But given the same situation, diversity ensures that another person's action or decision differ widely or narrowly. And where a person may be strong in an area of life, another may be weak